Fortunately, there are some techniques to improve your introvert dating experiences. Nancy has helped over 100,000 introverts from all over the world with her gigantic website full of resources, tips, encouragement and sharing by and for introverts. INFPs can meet ESTPs by joining groups that crusade for the things they believe in. Instead of torturing each other over coffee, meet somewhere like the zoo or see a great movie together.
In 2003, The Atlantic published a short essay by correspondent Jonathan Rauch on the trials of introversion in an extroverts' world. Rauch was inundated with more enthusiastic mail about the piece than for anything else he'd ever written.
Given the number of heartfelt and articulate responses he had already been receiving, Rauch decided to ask readers a follow-up question: "In looking for a mate," he asked, "are introverts better off pairing up with extroverts or with fellow introverts?
And people are actually expected to find in such an environment? As introverts, we’d really rather just go home and read a book, do some exercise, or watch TV instead of going out and socializing.
Unfortunately, unlike extroverts, we’re less likely to just fall into a relationship.
What you mean, is he or she doesn't have a charismatic personality, which is what you and others are attracted to. People are different, and not everyone was born to be charismatic.